February 20, 2011

Video Game Addiction Can Ruin Relationships

Addiction to any number of things can ruin relationships but gaming addiction seems to go about doing it in a rather interesting and underhanded way. First of all, when an individual becomes addicted to a game whether it be a console game, a PC game or an online game, one of the first things those around the game addict will notice is that he/she becomes so interested in the game that it effects every part of their life beginning with the social aspect.

Video games are increasingly becoming a factor in the crumbling of relationships. So says a Daily Mail reported survey by One-Poll.com, anyway. The survey polled 1500 gamers and their partners – and the conclusion is that video games break hearts.

On out of 10 respondents claimed they’d skipped a date or rejected sex in favour of playing video games. I don’t know about you, but for me? Boobs win out over digital guns any day of the week. 5% said games had cost them their relationship, while a much larger 70% said their partners become regularly annoyed at the amount of time played.

Roughly half of the women polled were jealous of the time their partners spent playing games. ‘It seems like a games console often means there are three people in a relationship.” Said a One-poll.com spokesperson. ‘It’s a bit sad if the virtual world is taking precedence over the real world.’

Here’s the compiled list of games that are likely to destroy relationships :

1. Call of Duty
2. Football Manager
3. Grand Theft Auto
5. Medal of Honor
6. Halo
7. Super Mario Brothers
8. Gran Turismo
9. Mario Kart
10. Guitar Hero
11. Assassins Creed
12. Pro Evo Soccer
13. Resident Evil
14. World of Warcraft
15. F1
16. Red Dead Redemption
17. Need for Speed
18. Fallout
19. Gears of War
20. Angry Birds

I was surprised to see World of Warcraft so low on that list, until I remembered that for most World of Warcraft players significant others’ to leave would require them sawing off their own right hands. Because it’s for nerds. On a more serious note, I definitely see video games causing untoward friction in households. I won’t lie if I say it’s caused issues in my own home – but not for the reasons stated above. No, she wants to play Fable and I want to play Fallout – and with just the one big screen TV you can see how it’s a problem. Of course, she has boobs – and that means that Fallout’s wastelands are going unexplored.

Gaming addictions can curse anyone of any age, gender or race. It particularly puts a strain on relationships because of the anti-social behavior it encourages. A game addict will become so engaged in whatever game it is that holds their attention that they begin to lose sight of other things in life that matter, the first usually being their family and others in the household. This process usually begins gradually and progresses from a few hours a day playing games to several hours a day sitting in front of the PC or TV.

Game addicts lose the will to take care of themselves, eat, maintain personal hygeine and take needed breaks from their game. They will sit in front of their games until well past the point of being uncomfortable. They may even develop back or neck problems as a result of their immobility. These individuals often ignore others in the household whether it be their spouse, children or other relatives to the point that they totally isolate themselves to their game.

A majority of the time, these gaming addictions reach a point where they become serious enough to cause intervention by a spouse or another family member. When this point in time arrives, the addict will most likely be unwilling to spend any time whatsoever away from the game, they will become angry with anyone who attempts to get them to spend time away from their object of addiction and may even employ the use of a headset to further isolate themselves. They will constantly think about the game and perhaps not bother to prepare nutritious meals for themselves because they are too caught up in whatever game they happen to be playing and might miss something that would happen in a role playing game if they step away from the computer to eat.

When someone is addicted to gaming, they will often lie about how much time they spend playing the game, they will have intense feelings of pleasure or guilt that may seem uncontrolled, social withdraw to the point that it causes extreme disruptions in work and home life, experiencing feelings of anxiety or depression, possibly even anger during times when they are not able to game, addicts may also spend large sums of money on games, gaming items or computer upgrades, and may often think or talk about playing games while they are involved in other mandatory daily tasks such as their job or other family activity.

One of the first people who will usually notice that a person has an addiction or problem with gaming is their spouse. This can affect a relationship in many different ways and can even become so severe that it leads to divorce. When one spouse becomes addicted to gaming, it usually takes up a majority of their time away from work or other mandatory activities. In some cases, it may even cost them their job because they are not performing due to lack of sleep from gaming all night. Gaming alone will begin to quickly take its toll on a husband and wife's relationship.

When one spouse is gaming, it takes up a lot of time and leaves the other spouse holding the proverbial bag. The effected spouse will often try to talk about the problem with the addicted spouse with no avail. Usually the addicted spouse will deny that there's a problem or refuse to discuss it period in which case the problem will only get worse. Addicted individuals sometimes become very upset when confronted with this issue just as drug and alcohol addicts become irate when their item of addiction is removed during an intervention.

It is advisable to seek the assistance of a professional if you or a loved one are experiencing gaming addiction.

Credits: Lazy Gamer, Helium, MMOsite

post signature

Dish Network Internet High speed internet for all your online gaming needs.


  1. its depends i don';t agree with the content because i used to play poker and having my wife too but i never waste the time that i must spent with my family i just play it when my leisure time is going on anyway views vary form person to person over all the way of execution of the content is awesome so thanks for sharing.

  2. I strongly agree, actually i were one of those people who just sit there and watch their screen without interacting with my family or go out with them. I don't eat just to finish the game ! but thanks god i'm over this now.

    P.s Loved the video that was a fucking great idea, she is so brave if he knew he would kill her haha

  3. My bf just moved in and we only have one laptop right now, for my work and school, and the instant I get up to do something, he's playing facebook games. He is obsessed with these games, and talks about them constantly. Today he went out with his family to celebrate his brother's birthday (I stayed home because I'm sick). He came back waving an x-box game in my face, and immediately started playing it. I guess I'll do the laundry, clean our room, make dinner, and do my homework now. ARGH!!

  4. Being a service recipient of a business broadband in Australia, I should be an advocate to beat online gaming addiction.

  5. I agree with a lot that this page has to say, my relationship has just failed and although there are other reasons, isolating myself on my PC is largely responsible for the collapse of my relationship.

    It doesn't make a difference anymore if I do decide to carry on gaming or not, as I cannot turn around time. I will never again have a relationship with her. But I am going to quit anyway. The failure of my relationship is just a sign that PC gaming is making my life nonexistent.

    If I quit now, I wont be a great socialist, I wont find my life suddenly filled with things to do, people to see, I wont find that i'm making loads of new friends nor find myself chatting to new women. That will all take time, but if I quit now, then everyday i'm free of living a nonexistent life, I'm another day closer to living an actual one. I am not doing this for her, I am doing it for myself.

    1. That is exactly how I feel, Joe. My gf made me pause from DotA2 for a week and I have been getting the shakes. It has totally made me resent her because I feel like I am sacrificing or killing a part of myself that I LOVE. But, then we argued so hard last night because this pent-up resentment towards her and her non-VG ways that I almost wanted to just end things. That is when I realized I need to quit, and completely. I am a big-swing kinda person; either all or nothing, and it scares me. I don't want to lose her because I admire her greatly. I wont lie - sometimes I fantasize about someone like her but who loves videogames and sometimes I will find someone like a cute girl in my class or the industry I am in that likes videogames, too. But they are not my girlfriend. I love her and because I don't want another relationship to be ruined for something that doesn't help me here in the real-world, I need to quit all video-games - at least until I finish school!

  6. Xbox One Modded Controllers

    This is perfect for those who love their old 360 controllers, or had a real expensive modded 360 controller and now don't have to worry about buying another, or want to use a PS4 Dual shock 4 controller or want that extra edge by playing with a keyboard and mouse. Naturally you have full access to all of the mod packs too so you can now play with a fully modded controller on your Xbox One Modded Controllers - including our latest addition to the mudpack range, CALL OF DUTY GHOSTS V1.0 - again supplied free of charge and will be out very soon (Until it is released you can use the Call of Duty Series v1.7 Game Pack to work with COD Ghosts on the Xbox One)

  7. its depends i don';t agree with the content because i used to play poker and having my wife too but i never waste the time that i must spent with my family i just play it when my leisure time is going on anyway views vary form person to person over all the way of execution of the content is awesome so thanks for sharing. Thanks a million! This helped mewakeupnow, I appreciate the share!

  8. This comment has been removed by the author.